3 Steps to Help You Get Where You Want To Be for Internet Marketing Newbie
Guest Post by life coach Olivia Antonic
The life of an Internet marketer/blogger newbie could be very lonely. Invariably they work alone, the people in their immediate circle don’t share their ‘nerdy’ enthusiasm and they often don’t even have someone as a ‘sounding board’.
Like most things in life results for the newbie Internet marketer don’t come immediately – on the contrary, if they achieve results, chances are it took a lot of trial and error, wasted money on empty promises of so called ‘gurus’, who sell ‘secrets to success’ that are only secret to the naive newbies.
But worse of all, it erodes the confidence of an already despairing aspiring Internet marketer whose low self-esteem is the only thing decreasing at the speed of light, and as if on steroids, the roots of self doubt are choking the last dwindling gasps of hope… Soon they are lost in the lush dense ‘forest’ of the ‘Internet’. Sure, the net provides an abundance of information, however, the inexperienced newbie has no way of knowing which bit is actually useful, relevant to the needs of their business or, whether it is really the latest in technology or if it is outdated.
Now most newbies are conscientious people who want to do things ‘properly’ and everything has to be ‘ready’ and ‘perfect’ because they want to do a ‘good job’. Getting stuck on details and fine tuning along the way inevitably takes the focus off, a resulting in that ‘lost in the forest’ feeling, they get overwhelmed, fall into despair and end up doing – nothing!!! This contributes to deeper isolation – physically, mentally and emotionally and from this pretty cage that they incarcerated themselves in, they try and save face in front of the “get a real job” union.
So, what is one to do?
You might ask yourself – what to do first? What order of sequence is most efficient?
Who do I believe/trust, what else is necessary to learn and/or buy?
Maybe (my wife/husband/friends are right) I should just get a real job, it certainly would be easier. The search for answers becomes more complex with every question… and this is where probably 90% of the people end up – giving up!!! It’s too hard…
Now, Churchill said – you never, never, never give up, but that’s another blog, a very long one. For those that are not ready to give up – what can they do?
Step One – you have to know your destination and you really have to want it!!!
It has to be clear to the point that you can smell it, feel the temperature and hear the noise of being there.
It has to be personal, it must have meaning to you and most importantly – you have to have a big enough –why. The stronger and more meaningful the reason – the more power you will find to get there.
What does it look like, what does it feel like, how will you know that you have reached your destination, what will you be doing when you get there, how will life be different for you, your family, your business, your friends?
What school are your kids going to now, where do you live, are you still driving the same car? What difference are you able to make to your community, children around the world, lost teenagers, and lonely seniors?
Are you wearing your Armani suit working on your business in the corporate world or did your success buy you the freedom to work in your track pants in the comfort of your home or in your bikinis sitting on the balcony of a resort in some exotic place whilst you are jet setting around the globe working on your business and mixing pleasure in your everyday life?
Once you have a crystal clear picture of it, write it down on a large piece of paper. Make a list in a point form on the left hand side.
Now you are starting to map your way out of that forest!
Step Two is – start writing all the sub-lists against each point describing to yourself what you need to do, to learn, unlearn, form association with, buy, change… in order for the first list to begin manifesting itself in your life. Start doing whatever needs to be done – immediately.
Whether we have our own business or not it is essential that we grow our leadership skills to enable ourselves to do the most productive thing at any given time in life and business and enjoy success sooner… hmm… yet another blog.
Step Three can extend into as many steps as necessary for your particular goal to happen because you will continue writing sub-lists until you reach the very point at where you are now.
You might find yourself out of your comfort zone paddling down “denial’ because you might not feel pleasant to be confronted with the truth of where you actually are. So now not only have you got a crystal clear vision of where you want to be – but it is also undeniably clear where you are at present, however you have a clear map you created to work back towards your ultimate goal.
Just like you would driving from A to B in a foreign place, follow your map! Stay disciplined and focused. With anything you pick up to do, ask yourself – by doing this now is it going to take me closer to my goal in the most efficient manner available to me at the moment? Am I doing the best thing at any given time? Do I really want it and is my ‘why’ unshakable?
If your answer is – yes – keep the champagne on ice – because you are on your journey which will take you to your ultimate goal, and then… just let the bubbly flow!
Congratulate yourself and reward yourself before mapping out further journeys.
Author’s Bio
Olivia Antonic is a quit cigarettes in 60 minutes specialist and life coach from Perth using the Beyond Success System. Please make sure to visit her life coaching website.
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Hi Olivia and Ben
One of the most important things I did was to have a business plan. My blog is and always was going to be a platform for my business. Once I had built up a readership through networking via Twitter and blog commenting and regular posts on my blog, then I could put up my store and begin to do product reviews, gather testimonials and continue to learn all about marketing.
I am learning from successful marketers who have businesses that bring them in an income. And I read a lot to continue learning.
There is always the danger of wanting to learn everything at once. I was only discussing this today with a friend who runs a business and like me is on a learning curve with online aspects of running a business.
It does take time and one needs perseverence and patience to continue. Lots fall by the wayside and don’t fulful their dream. I plan to keep working hard and getting to that place of having a successful online business.
Patricia Perth Australia
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Hi Patricia,
I agree with you about having a plan and sticking to it, this will help you avoid the danger of distraction by the next shinny object. However, I find too many people are handed down, usually from the info product they’ve bought, a plan they find next to impossible to implement, that where the strugle begins and it’s a downward spiral from then on.
The problem most newbie face is that they didn’t buy an Internet Marketing model that they will be most comfortable with. Let me give you some example to explain my point. If you buy a product which recommend paid advertising and you have limited budget, then you’ll get stuck with the plan. Next, if you are told to outsource and you are not comfortable with that, you’ll get stuck again.
Yes, you have to keep trying to find what will work for you and take you from the being a newbie to being successful.
Yes, it takes time to learn, and with time, I’m slowly finding my strength and what interest me most.
Ben Wan
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Hi Patricia,
The success you enjoy today did not come about accidentally.
Your discipline and organizational skills would have played a large part when you started your business. The results you achieved have served as great encouragement to other budding business owners.
Also, I suspect there are many people out there who very much appreciated you sharing your journeys experiences. With your dedication and hard work further success will inevitably be yours.
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Yes without a clear plan you will end up pulled a thousand different directions.
I was going on just doing whatever was cool at the time but it wasn’t getting me anywhere. It was only when I sat down and wrote out the goals that I was able to really focus on achieving the next step(s).
Before that I didn’t even know what I really even *wanted*.
Getting it all laid out in front of you really helps, I’ve found.
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Olivia Antonic Reply:
April 27th, 2011 at 1:14 am
Hi John,
Thank you for your visit & comments.
There is a certain power with writing the goals down – it’s like placing an order.
If they are not written down then the person is like a ship without the radar, making it difficult and dangerous.
Isn’t life challenging enough without making it more complicated and sabotaging the efforts towards success?
Best wishes for a successful business.
Olivia
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Hi Olivia,
Great to see your guest post on Ben’s site.
This is powerful direction. We just have to DO it. I know visualising works, writing goals works, but most of all asking yourself – ‘will this get me to where I want to go” is valid for me. It stops me getting sidetracked. Long ago I was told to make regular budgets and 5-year plans. Finding this confronting, I answered “that wouldn’t work for my business because it is so unpredictable”. Of course it works for ANY business and the unpredictability of a business is quite predictable.
You just have to start doing the plans and budgets and it’s interesting to review them years later. Business usually presents new opportunities which send us off the main track, but sometimes these side tracks BECOME the main business. We have to be flexible when opportunities arise, yet keep our focus. Thanks for your coaching advice. I’ve used a life coach and highly recommend this – it certainly helps us feel supported and keep our goals clear.
I’m making this comment under my 2nd website address for the first time – fun to see CommentLuv working !
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Olivia Reply:
May 4th, 2011 at 10:19 am
Hi Julia,
What you said about it not being suitable for your business – is very , very popular out there.
So many people use this basic excuse, and it’s other variations only to find that – IT’S TRUE.
As with most things, all those years ago Mr Ford wisely said that whether we believe it or not – we are right!
For all those ‘weird’ people that implement visualizing and writing goals down – IT’S ALSO TRUE. The difference is , that for them, their business is surging ahead. They are achieving their goals. They are setting themselves financially free. They reach a stage from when they can afford to spend their time doing what and when they like. They are free …
They chose what they want,
They found out what it is going to cost in terms of what they need to do to get it,
They agreed to pay the price, so they did whatevet it takes, the work, education etc,.
The are enjoying the fruits of their labour.
Some people call them ‘lucky’ but they know that they created their own luck.
Congratulations for taking ‘the road travelled’. It is a privilege to know a quiet achiever like yourself who diligently applies knowledge that’s out there for all, and who demonstrates through the success of her own business – that it works. You are an inspiration!
Best wishes.
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Olivia Reply:
May 4th, 2011 at 10:39 am
Hi Lorie,
Thank you for visiting.
Yes, Ben Wan’s website is a tapestry of ongoing valuable information and all individual ‘bits’ are necessary for overall business success. He has a wealth of knowledge and for those of us who were fortunate enough to learn from him, he has an amazing way of teaching it.
Best wishes
Olivia
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This is a really good post Olivia…
I must confess, when I was first starting out and a real newbie, I had NO clue what to do. It was so overwhelming to me. Everywhere I turned I was reading something different and my mind was going everywhere. I finally made a decision and then again, it was a learning process before I knew what I was suppose to be doing. So although writing out specifically what you need to do, what you need to have, your budget, etc. it really does help to do all your research first to find out just what’s involved. Then you may need to do more research to find out everything that you need to do if that isn’t given to you in any course of training that you become a part of.
I know I’m sounding like I’m all over the place but I can only relate to what I went through which is why I failed so miserably in the beginning. I seriously had no idea what all was involved in starting a business or what it took. Talk about naive but here I am, four years later enjoying my life working from home. Even though I stumbled over myself on numerous occasions, I’m thrilled to say that everything eventually worked itself out. Wish I had your advice back then but it sure is great advice even reading it now. So thank you for that!
Adrienne
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Olivia Reply:
May 13th, 2011 at 10:07 am
Hi Adrienne,
I love your enthusiasm, I get this bubbly, happy energy from you. Yet you seem to have a humility which combined with your courage makes you a quiet achiever and I’m sure you’ll soar with the eagles for a long time yet.
Thank you for your comments, I sure can Identify with what you are saying.
Even when we think we are ok – there is ALWAYS something new to do and learn.
Personally, one of the major issues I was facing with Social Media is the TIME involved to maintain all my Social Media platforms. I found it extreemly time consuming and I was getting increasingly frustrated as I never seemed to be on top of it. Needless to say, it was not the best use of my energies.
Of course, there is the option of delegating this cumbersome task to someone . But , who is going to be able to do the miriad of personalized tasks and how does one even begin to explain to someone else what to do when one hardly has enough knowledge about it
Then something happened which created the light at the end of the tunnel for me:
I discovered, Ben Wan of http://benwan.net who , as part of his business
MANAGES THE SOCIAL MEDIA FOR BUSINESS OWNERS who are not technically inclined or simply don’t have enough hours in the day to maintain it consistently!!! Oh my God, this is when I got my sanity back. I didn’t know that this sort of service even exists.
Now I can concentrate on what I love to do and I have successfully delegated the stuff that is absolutely necessary to every business, however, by trying to do everything myself, I was not effective nor efficient enough to meet my own standards.
This was the single most important decission I made in my business!!! I just had to share it.
Have an awesome day, to your success
Olivia
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Hi Olivia (and Ben!),
Well said! Loving maps in general, and traveling in particular, I zeroed in on your point about getting from point A to B.
I’m a firm believer in discipline and unshakable focus. All things being equal, every new endeavor is more likely to yield fruit when these are in place. Thanks for your keen observations.
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You have to set goals and commit to doing what it takes to reach them goals. One mistake I see a lot of people doing is they make big goals and sometimes so big they give up cause it takes so long to reach that big huge goal. I suggest you set little baby step goals that when done will reach the big goal you have in mind. This does two things it shows your making progress to the big goal which is inspiring you to move ahead and in the end the big goal will be reached.
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